To My Own Time Zone

Because it’s night now, but not dark, and because I would like to go to bed sooner rather than later and it will still not be be dark, I have found it necessary to invent my own time zone: Standard Chelle Time.

The sun is always just about to crest over the horizon every morning, regardless of what time we wake up. And it takes two hours longer than regular time, the orange spilling recklessly over the streets and trees. These mornings always have enough time for the news and breakfast and a shower. Maybe a little more coffee. A little Joan Didion or some Carole King.

Traffic exists but without the pressure; everyone will be where they need to be at the exact moment they need to be there, and they know it. Everyone waves. Several meetings are scheduled and then, graciously, cancelled. In SCT, we have pockets of free time.

We use this time wisely by going to the park without our phones. Some of us will get high and listen to Bob Dylan, but others stay sober without judgement. We have no time for judgement. The ice cream truck shows up and we all have $3.

We get our work done: we balance income sheets and read HR reports. We change our babies’ diapers and we take out our trash. The sun sets just as our eyes feel tired.

And here, I want to turn to my right. Here, now, I want to turn to the people I have loved, people who I can no longer turn to. In my time zone, they are here. But briefly.

They are here without whatever pain they endured in their last minutes on this earth. They are free. They sit for just a moment. They are their most beautiful selves, how I always remember them. They have forgiven me, all the words I never said, the anger in the absence. They travel across so many time zones to get here. They can’t stay long.

They want to see us. We are grateful. We pour lemonade over ice for them. Today, the ice never melts.

To Being in Over Your Head

You’ve been there. Drowning.

You get a call at 4:37 on Tues. You’re in early rush hour traffic teaching your son how to drive. “Brake. Brake now. Brake harder. Harder. Now.” 

The call is for a meeting tomorrow. Just you and some clients from out of town. They just have some questions; they want to know about the process. No particulars. Shouldn’t take long.

Clients from out of town always want particulars. It is, in fact, the reason they come into town. No one spends money on airfare and hotels and cab rides because they have questions about the beautiful generalities of your process.

Oh no. We will drill down.

You walk into the conference room and drown in all the paper, the binders, at least seven, open all over the table like some kind of boudoir for accountants.

Good lord.

You’re handed spreadsheets. Narratives in column form. They are pointing to various numbers here and there asking how, exactly, these numbers were arrived at?

If this was a movie from 1943, you would drag a finger between your collar and your neck. Gulp. Think quickly.

Numbers, you say, are not arrived at. They are not vacations or wedding parties or first dates. The metaphor that equates computation to travel is, you insist, inherently flawed.

They are stunned. Confused. 

Look, you say, I don’t know know where they got these numbers. I know what I asked them, but I don’t know how this answers my question. 

Frankly, I am not supposed to make sense of the answer. I’m in charge of asking the question. Someone else in charge of evaluating answers.

Frankly, you say much more slowly now,  that’s your job. You’re the client, right? What do you think?

You sit back in your conference-room high-backed faux-leather chair. You console yourself with the knowledge that no matter what happens at this table, no one will die because of this decision. 

They stare back. Ask a few more questions but you have found your boat and you are sailing out of here.

You arrive.

Later, you take your son driving. Today’s lesson is parallel parking

To The Kids Denied Talking and Recess

Today we are hanging out in the hall, me and some first graders. Friday afternoon, waiting for the bell.

I’m helping kids with jackets and bags and shoes. He says to me, “Today was a bad day.”

I love to come see the kids on Friday because no matter my week, these few minutes of kid time cheer me up. We talk about Batman versus Spider-Man and how heavy their books are and what their favorite colors are. My favorite colors are always theirs, too. And I’m not lying.

I think he is reading my mind. Today was a bad day. But I can see in his eyes that his day was a bad day in a way that was different from mine. He slumps against the wall.

I ask him why today was a bad day. And then I slump with him.

The other kids were talking. A lot. It was breakfast. The kids were talking. They were loud. 

I think he is about to cry. I bend my head closer to his. We are still slumped.

The teacher said they can’t talk anymore. They can’t have recess anymore.

That’s not fun, I say. That would make me sad. For how many days?

“For all the days,” he says.

All the days. He can’t talk for all of the days.

I tell him that would make me angry. I ask him if he likes to talk. He does. I tell him I do, too. I say I would be sad if someone told me I couldn’t talk anymore. He nods. I tell him I like when we talk. He nods. I tell him I will talk to him next week.

So, young man, we will talk. We will talk about the teachers that tell you not talk. We will talk about our favorite cereals, about why math is fun, why the librarian looks like the teacher in Captain Underpants. We will walk out the door and keep talking. We will talk about fairness and trouble. We will talk about wanting both but always only finding one. We will talk about our mothers, how they don’t take shit from us and because of that, we trust them more than anyone. 

I want to talk with you for years. I want to talk with you when you’re in middle school and trying to walk that line between being independent and wanting everyone’s approval. I want to talk with you when you write that first essay when you take a real risk and it pays off. I want to talk with you when you ask out your first date and get rejected. I want to hear you talk for hours when you try to decide if you can live with your parents anymore and talk with you when you finally have to leave and are terrified.

You will talk. You will talk all the days. You will be at a microphone. And you will be heard.